Today’s Gender of the Day is: Anything!
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I was bullied all my life, and as I result I've always had a compassion and understanding for others.
That is why I'm here to help. Please feel free to submit your stories and/or questions to me. Or if you just need to vent I'm here to listen. I'll help in anyway I can and if I can't I'll try to point you in the right direction. I'm LGBT friendly, open minded, and I try my best to not judge. So let it all out!
This image is one of the most powerful pro-choice images I’ve ever seen. When I saw it in the newspaper I immediately cut it out and hung it on my wall.
This is not my image. I’m using it with permission from Arthur Newspaper.
The sad part is a lot of people don’t even understand what the hanger represents. Awful.
abortions will always occur, let’s make them as safe as possible.
Oh my goodness, yes yes yes! Don’t worry, it’s not a stupid question. I genuinely wish we lived in a society where it was, but unfortunately that’s one of the most prevalent rape myths of our society. A lot of people believe that isn’t rape, which is problematic and why we need to introduce these topics further into our primary education system.
Now, I don’t know what country you live in and what all the international laws on the topic are, but strictly speaking for the US, it is illegal. The federal government uses this thing called the UCR (Uniform Crime Report) to gather national statistics on rape from police agencies every year. By definition of the UCR, and this the Attorney General Eric Holder and the US Federal Government, rape has recently been redefined as, “The penetration, no matter how slight, of the vagina or anus with any body part or object, or oral penetration by a sex organ of another person, without the consent of the victim.” This is the definition the US uses to record what is and what isn’t rape. In addition to this, there are actually LAWS that state that previous sexual history cannot be brought into the courtroom, unless the defense can prove a specific reason why it would be necessary. ** Not sure if these are federal or in all states, as it’s been a while since I studied this in class. However, you can get a brief overview of your Victim Rights here.
There’s no exclusionary factor of relationship status in there. Certainly, that does not guarantee if you go to court and the other person tries to use your relationship status as a defense, they won’t succeed. My professor likes to refer to juries as “watermelons with eyes.” Unfortunately, you can’t do away with all the bias you may get there with people who do also believe these rape myths, regardless of what even just the law says. But I’ll spare you my rant about juries for another day.
Now, taking the law out of if for a moment, let’s examine the scenario. I am going to create a hypothetical situation based on your question to try and best demonstrate what I say. Scenario: Jack and Jill have been dating for six months, and on multiple occasions, Jill and Jack have both consented to having sex with each other. One day, Jill is angry with Jack and does not wish to have sex with him. She tells him no and tries to go to bed, but Jack wants to have sex anyways. Jack ignores Jill’s response and gets on top of her, where he starts to initiate sexual activities despite her requests to the contrary. He tells Jill that he’s her boyfriend so he’s allowed to have sex with her since she’s let him before. They have sex, possibly because Jill could not fight him off or because she felt guilty in response to his words, but at no point did she consent.
Let’s break this down a bit. We know what rape means. It means sex without consent. When you consent to having sex with a person, you are never consenting to have sex with them forever. Consent for sex needs to be given before every single time you have sex with that person, regardless of if you have just met them or if you have been married for 15 years.
In the above scenario, Jill never consented to sex with Jack. Jill’s response was very clear.
Let us summarize what we have learned.
Did Jill consent to sex with Jack before? Yes.
Did Jill consent to sex with Jack this time? No.
Is prior sexual history taken into account with the national definition of rape? No.
Is rape sex without consent? Yes.
So, did Jack rape Jill? YES HE DID.
If this has happened to you or someone you know, there are many resources available to help you. You can absolutely report it to the police, however be aware that if you choose to do so, you will have to live through it again in a courtroom setting. If charges are pressed, you will have to face your rapist in court and answer questions that will feel invasive. I’m not telling you to go one way or the other, as it is a personal decision that some people find very worthwhile and others don’t. If this is for another person you know, be sure that they truly want to go through with this. If any DNA evidence even exists, it would be harder to convince a jury that it wasn’t from a previous encounter. And if a victim is uncooperative and does not wish to press charges, it will likely never go to trial, because trials are expensive and most prosecutors will look at that and say, “There’s a previous relationship here, and the victim refuses to testify that this actually happened, which takes away any proof we had left. There’s no way a jury will convict based on this because all they will have it our word against the victim’s.” Sadly, this happens very often. So don’t make someone else report it if they won’t be willing, as it will probably only make it harder on them.
If that isn’t the route you (or anyone reading this) wish to take, there are resources that I think may be helpful to anyone dealing with sexual assault victimization. There is absolutely help available beyond the courtroom. First, check for your local Victim Services center. Google may be of help there. I can also point you to the Office of Victim Services Here, you can search for help by state or on a national basis, get summaries of your rights as a victim, and browse through their many resources. RAINN also has a hotline set up (info here) that you can call at any time by dialing: 1.800.656.HOPE (HOPE is 4673)
If you have any further questions, feel free to ask. I hope this was of some help to you and answered what you were asking!
A 12-year-old schoolgirl has been accepted into Mensa after discovering she is brainier than both Albert Einstein and Stephen Hawking.
Olivia Manning, from Liverpool, managed to get a whopping score in an IQ test of 162 - well above the 100 average.
Her score is not only two points better than genius German physicist Einstein and Professor Stephen Hawking, but puts her in the top one per cent of intelligent people in the world.
(and of course the mainstream media won’t even acknowledge this because women doing smart things in math or science? GEDOUTTATOWN.)
This is so awesome!
SIGNAL BOOST! This is AMAZING!
Please tell me I’m not the only one seriously irked by this wording.
She’s a kid who got higher on Mensa than two adults revered by the scientific and intellectual community world wide. SHe should be their god. Her brain’s not even done cooking yet; when she’s finished, she might be 180. 230!
Didn’t I just read about a black teenage boy in the UK, around the same age as her, with the same IQ level?
There are two hyper genius children getting headlines right now? This sounds like the start of a movie.
|Shy Guy:||Hey there..|
|Random Guy:||Hey what's up?|
|Shy Guy:||Nothing much, just wanted to say you are really cute.|
|Random Guy:||Thanks dude!|
|Shy Guy:||So, are you here with anyone?|
|Random Guy:||Yeah, my girlfriend just went to the washroom.|
|Shy Guy:||Oh God, I'm sorry, didn't know you were straight.|
|Random Guy:||That's alright it's cool.|
|Shy Guy:||You don't mind me calling you cute?|
|Random Guy:||A compliment is a compliment no matter who it comes from.|